Manners

Bismillahi ta3ala...
To understand good manners, one must also understand bad manners. Allah [swt] has given us all the "good things", however the "bad things that" happen are a result of our actions...Pure Good cannot produce evil, like pure light cannot produce darkness. Allah [swt] is pure good, thus pure evil cannot be produced by him, only by us!!
There is a small peice of meat called the tongue which allows us to communicate, we express our feelings and thoughts to live socially. It plays an important role in our everyday lives. We can build and destroy a community, a society or the whole of humanity through this. You can also bring people together, you can speak the truth, you can pass information to people, educate people, Islam touches this point about this organ.
Imam Zain al-abedein [as]:
The tongue of the human supervises the body and parts of the body. Everyday the tongue asks the parts of the body, "how have you become today?". The parts of the body answer, we are good, but if only you leave us. The organs of the body say to the tongue We beg you to leave us alone we are rewarded and punished because of you. You are the reason for our rewards and punishments.
"Ina lisaneh ibna adam yashruf kola yowmin 3ala jawari7ah fa yakool kayfa asba7tom, fa yakooloona bikhayran in taraktana. yakooloon Allahu allahu feena wa yunashidoonah wa yaqoooloona inama nathabu bika wa noo3akabu bik."
The prophet [saw]:
"bala2u al-insanu min al lisan" - The troubles of a human come from the tongue.
Imam Ali [as]:
"sa2ala al imamu ali [as]: ayu shay2in min ma khalaqa allahu a7san? fa qaal: al kalam, fa qeela: ayu shay2in min ma khalaqa allahu akba7? fa qaal: al kalam, bil kelam ibyathat al wujoooh wa bil kelam iswadat il wujooh"
Imam Ali [as] asked:What is the prettiest thing from the creation of allah [swt]? so he said: speech, then he asked and what is the ugliest thing from allah [swt]? so he said, speech. then he said: through speech our faces have been whitened and through speech our faces have been blackened.
Imam Al-Hassan [as]:
The distance between truth and falsehood is only four fingers. whatever you see by your eyes is the truth. But you can hear falsehood with your ears.
"Bayn al 7aqi wa al ba6ili arba3 a9abi3, fa ma ra2aytahu bi 3aynikeh howeh al-7aq wa qad tasma3 bi ithnikeh ba6ilan katheeran"
Lying is an example of the misuse of the tongue, which leads to untruthfulness of ones speech..
There are two things to bear in mind:
1] Hypocrisy [an physical action]
2] Lying [an oral action]
Both hypocrisy and lying show the untruthfulness of one.
Hypocrisy is showing unreal things by action. It is good to show consequences and effects of lying. There are many effects and results of lying..some appear in your life, some appear in your next life.
The religion if islam enters in every aspect of your life, Inshalla we will discuss the affects.
1] Losing dignity, or glory and losing the respect of others.
Imam Al-Sadiq [as] says:
"La takthib, fa yathhab bahaukeh" - Do not lie for it will take away your dignity.
2] Losing the Rizik...losing daily bread
Imam Ali Ridha [as]: Al kathibu yankus al rizik - lying takes away the daily bread
Imam Ali [as]: I3tiyad al kathibu yarith al fakor - To lie often inherits poverty.
3] Forgetfullness
Imam Al-Sadiq:
"Ina mimen a3anahu allahu bih 3ala al kathabeenah howeh al nisyaan."
God punishes liars by making them forget.
4] Al-Nifaaq - Hypocrisy.
examples of hypocrisy:
--->A person in Iran was married to 4 women by lying to each that he had no wives.
--->If i own a car, and i sell the car to 10 people obtaining money from all 10 without giving the product away.
God gave us forgetfullness so we do not go deeper in our lives.
Imam Al-Ridha [as]:
"Al-Kithbu babon min abwab al nifaq" - Lying is a door from the doors of Hypocrisy
5] Losing opportunity of worshipping God.
Sometimes you will be unable to do wajib/compulsory things in a day because of Lying. If you lie you will lose the opportunity of praying salat al layl.