What Ive learnt from Marriages...Part 1

When you see other people managing their own marriages, you as the onlooker get a glance of what sort of behaviour is acceptable and which is not in your eyes. The more situations you come across the more it makes you either want to take from it, or abstain from it.

An ideal marriage is one that is based on respect, understanding, compatability in all sense, and of course love. Love however is probably the last factor to consider.

You will notice that a couple that are compatible are more comfortable with their lives as oppose to those who marry because they are "in love" but end up quarreling because they do not agree on basic things.

Although all this talk is easier said than done, and you can sit here listing ideal marriages based on the right ingredients, there is another important thing to consider.. and that is.. the actual person that you want to spend your life with.

It is important to chose a spouse that will make life comfy for you, one that will support you when you need support, one who will protect you, understand your complaints and worries without be-littling you, one that will take care of your emotions and make sure that he/she does not hurt them, one that is prepared to sacrifice for your sake.

If some or all of the above are not in the person you want to marry then you will find that the person may not be the right person for you. If you fall ill one day, and you have a wife or husband that are not caring, they couldnt care less if you were ill.. then what does that tell you about them? A spouse that degrades you and disrespects you by calling you names, even if he is angry? A spouse that turns away from you as soon as you begin to complain? A spouse that is never there for you when you most need them? One that is selfish and cares only of his/her needs?There are many more..

We may accept some of these, because "everyone has their ups and downs" but in all sense, are these characteristics ones to live with for the rest of your life?

To be cont..